Luis Fonsi’s “Despacito” became the No. 1 song in the country last week, a feat that hasn’t been achieved by a Spanish-language song since the “Macarena” in 1996.

The hit’s original version features reggeaton superstar Daddy Yankee. But in April, Justin Bieber decided to join the worldwide phenomenon and collaborated on a remix that quickly climbed the U.S. charts. 

Bieber sings in Spanish for the first time on the track, and Fonsi said the Canadian artist learned the lyrics phonetically in less than a week. The Spanish lyrics didn’t seem to stick, however, as the singer appeared to forget all the words to the song during a New York City club performance on Tuesday.

We get it, “Despacito” can be challenging for non-Spanish speakers. That’s why HuffPost Latino Voices is giving English-speaking fans a quick lyric guide. 

Here’s a rough translation of what the No. 1 song in the country is actually talking about. And yes, we’re using the lyrics from the original version. 

“Despacito” or “Slowly” 

Fonsi:

Sí, sabes que ya llevo un rato mirándote,
Tengo que bailar contigo hoy.
Vi que tu mirada ya estaba llamándome,
Muéstrame el camino que yo voy.

Yes, you know I’ve been looking at you for a while,

I have to dance with you today.

I saw that your look was already calling me,

show me the way and I’ll go. 

¡Oh!
Tú, tú eres el imán y yo soy el metal.
Me voy acercando y voy armando el plan,
sólo con pensarlo se acelera el pulso.
Ya, ya me está gustando más de lo normal.
Todos mis sentidos van pidiendo más,
Esto hay que tomarlo sin ningún apuro.

Oh!

You, you’re the magnet and I’m the metal.

I’m getting closer and coming up with a plan,

just thinking about it accelerates my pulse.

I’m already enjoying it more than normal.

All of my senses are asking for more,

this has to be done without a hurry.

[Chorus]
Despacito
Quiero respirar tu cuello despacito.
Deja que te diga cosas al oído,
para que te acuerdes si no estás conmigo.
Despacito
Quiero desnudarte a besos despacito.
Firmar en las paredes de tu laberinto
y hacer de tu cuerpo todo un manuscrito

Quiero ver bailar tu pelo, quiero ser tu ritmo
Que le enseñes a mi boca, tus lugares favoritos.
Déjame sobrepasar tus zonas de peligro,
hasta provocar tus gritos
y que olvides tu apellido

[Chorus]
Slowly

I want to breathe your neck slowly.

Let me whisper things in your ear,

that you’ll remember when you’re not with me.

Slowly

I want to undress you with kisses slowly.

Sign the walls of your labyrinth

and turn your body into a manuscript.  

I want to see your hair dance, I want to be your rhythm

I want you to show my mouth your favorite places.

Let me surpass your danger zone,

until it makes you scream

and makes you forget your last name. 

Daddy Yankee:

Si te pido un beso, ven, dámelo. Yo sé que estás pensándolo.
Llevo tiempo intentándolo, mami, esto es dando y dándolo.
Sabes que tu corazón conmigo te hace bam-bam.
Sabes que esa beba está buscando de mi bam-bam.
Ven, prueba de mi boca para ver cómo te sabe.
Quiero, quiero, quiero ver cuánto amor a ti te cabe.
Yo no tengo prisa, yo me quiero dar el viaje.
Empezamos lento, después salvaje.

Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito.
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito.
Cuando tú me besas con esa destreza
veo que eres malicia con delicadeza.
Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito.
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito.
Y es que esa belleza es un rompecabezas,
pero pa’ montarlo aquí tengo la pieza.
¡Oye!

If I ask you for a kiss, come on, give it to me. I know you’re thinking about it.

I’ve spent a while trying, mami, this is give and giving.

You know your heart with me goes bam-bam.

You know what this babe wants from me is bam-bam.

Come, taste my mouth to see how it tastes to you.

I want, want, want to see how much love fits in you.

I’m in no rush, I want to take the ride.

We’ll start slow and then go wild. 

Step by step, gentle gently.

We’ll get closer, little by little. 
When you kiss me with that skill,

I see that you are malice with finesse. 

Step by step, gentle gently.

We’ll get closer, little by little.
This beauty is a puzzle,

but to put it together I have the piece. 
Oye!

[CHORUS, 2x]

Luis Fonsi:
Despacito
Vamo’ a hacerlo en una playa en Puerto Rico,
hasta que las olas griten “¡Ay, Bendito!”
para que mi sello se quede contigo.
¡Bailalo!

Slowly

We’re going to do it on a beach in Puerto Rico,

until the waves scream “Oh, Lord!”

so that my seal [likely meaning mark or impression] stays with you.

Dance!

OK, now you’re ready to sing along with Fonsi and D.Y.!

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In the wave of activism that has swept the country since President Donald Trump’s inauguration, people have found myriad ways of expressing their discontent ― from attending marches and rallies, to making calls to Congress, to showing up at town halls. 

But there’s one form of activism that cannot be swept aside if the resistance is to be truly inclusive, specifically of people with disabilities: online activism. 

While social media is critical to today’s social justice movements, people often dismiss online activism as “hashtag activism” or “slacktivism,” painting it as less valuable or committed than showing up in person, say, at rallies or marches.

But often missing from that debate is the perspective of people with disabilities. Disabled people represent 10 percent of the world’s population, and for their community, social media is often a critical way ― at times the only way ― to take part in social movements.

“I’m a disabled person whose activism is primarily online,” disability activist Alice Wong, who co-started the hashtag #CripTheVote, told HuffPost via email. “Living in a world that is physically and socially inaccessible (e.g., micro-aggressions, lack of transportation, lack of accessible buildings and venues) and living with a body that has significant energy and assistance needs, makes it difficult for me to ‘show up’ the way most activists imagine what ‘showing up’ means.”

Leading activists and groups in today’s social justice movements can often sideline people with disabilities, likely without even realizing it.  

Last week, for instance, celebrity America Ferrera led a panel, hosted by Twitter and Cosmopolitan as part of her activism group Harness, called #ActivismIRL ― or Activism “In Real Life.” Featuring Women’s March and Black Lives Matter leaders, the panel discussed how to “turn hashtags into action” and learn about taking action from so-called “frontline” activists. 

While the panel brought up important points, seeking to teach people who may be new to activism how to engage more deeply in today’s social movements, several people in the disability community also pointed out on Twitter that the event’s #ActivismIRL hashtag seems to draw a false ― and even harmful ― dichotomy between online activism and activism “in real life.” 

“Hashtags like #ActivismIRL devalues the labor ― and it’s real labor ― of online activists like myself. We’re present and visible, but in a different way,” Wong told HuffPost. “It’s also pretty ableist when you consider the privilege involved in being ‘in real life.’ Not all people have the ability to travel or the requisite time/resources for frontline activism.”

Harness, as well as to Ferrera’s public relations team, did not immediately respond to requests for comment. 

With the Trump resistance going strong ― April showed a sharp increase in protest activity, and people are getting active online with hashtags like #IAmAPreexistingCondition ― movements are losing out on engaging millions of people when they don’t work to include those with disabilities.

“I have a progressive neuromuscular disability, and I spent years fighting for equipment that even allows me to get out of bed,” Dominick Evans, media advocate for the Center for Disability Rights, told HuffPost. “I have so much education and information to share with the world, but if I can’t leave my house because my wheelchair doesn’t work, how do I disseminate that?”

In the current debates around policy, people often think of health care as the critical issue for disabled people. While this is important, the disability community ― like any community ― is intersectional, including people of all ages, races and religions. That means that issues like education, affordable housing and police brutality can be “disability issues.”

“The disability community is the canary in the coal mine of public policy: We are usually the first group targeted because of ableist policies that imply that in accessing our rights, we are asking for something extra, which is simply not true ― we are asking for equality,” disability activist and former Obama appointee Rebecca Cokley told HuffPost by email. “The reality is, we are being impacted, as in the case of Medicaid cuts, increasing funding of vouchers and charter schools, repeal of the protections tied to pre-existing conditions.”

When it comes to responding to political issues with activism, it’s not just those with physical disabilities who can be limited in their ability to participate in person ― so can people with chronic illnesses, mental health issues and other disabilities.

“I went to my first protest march in Miami on Inauguration Day,” 18-year-old activist Kayla Alamilla told HuffPost in February. “Before then, my depression and anxiety had prevented me from going out and protesting.”

While today’s leading resistance movements often make an effort to include people with disabilities ― the Women’s March, for instance, had a Disability March website for people to join the Jan. 21 events online, and Black Lives Matter lists disability rights as a priority on its site ― organizations can always do more, according to Wong. 

Valuing and respecting online activism is one part of improving inclusion. Equally important, Wong said, is incorporating people with disabilities in every part of a social movement, from initial planning, to leadership positions, to organizing event access.

“Almost every group can improve the way they include disabled people in their movements. I’d like to see disabled people present in all movements who are in leadership positions with actual power, not tokens,” Wong said. “Many movement leaders have to be convinced or persuaded to consider disability as diversity when it should be the default.”

If you want to learn more about activism and social justice issues directly from people with disabilities, check out hashtags #CripTheVote, #AccessibleOrganizingMeans and #DisabilitySoWhite.

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Let’s face it: When it comes to who is considered “hot,” we tend to default to traditional Eurocentric and Western standards. We’re talking narrow noses, large, non-almond-shaped eyes and pale skin. 

For men of Asian descent, that means their good looks too often go overlooked. Asian guys are rarely cast as male romantic leads in movies or TV; as Netflix’s “Iron Fist” showed us, they frequently get passed over for white guys. They have more difficulty finding dates online than other racial groups ― and get called undateable by the likes of Steve Harvey. (Remember when the TV host laughed at the idea of white women finding Asian dudes attractive? Yeah, who could forget.) 

We’re here to call out all that B.S. There’s one reason Asian men shouldn’t have to conform to Western standards of masculinity and hotness: They’re sexy as hell on their own. 

Below, 23 guys who are upending ideas about what it means to be attractive and masculine by sheer virtue of their good looks. (For part one of this clearly riveting series on hot Asian men, head here.) 

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A Bronx intersection has been renamed in honor of the late Kalief Browder on what would have been his 24th birthday. 

Browder took his life at 22 years old in his family’s Bronx home after a traumatizing three-year imprisonment at Rikers Island. In March, Spike TV aired “TIME: The Kalief Browder Story,” a six-part documentary series that shed light on the repeated injustices Browder faced. He went to Rikers at 16 for allegedly stealing a backpack, but was never convicted.

The Thursday morning unveiling of Kalief Browder Way ― at the intersection of Prospect Avenue and East 181 Street ― is just one of a number of remembrances to take place after the airing of the docuseries, which was executive produced by Jay Z. 

Just a week before the docuseries’ final episode in late March, New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio announced a 10-year plan to close Rikers. On April 10, New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo ― alongside Browder’s family ― signed a bill to prohibit the state from continuing to charge 16- and 17-year-olds as adults. In that same month, city Public Advocate Letitia James began campaigning for the island to be named after Browder when the prison closes. 

The unveiling was hosted by Browder’s family, members of the City Council and criminal justice reform advocates. 

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Precisely one month before the presidential election, The Washington Post released audio of then-candidate Donald Trump bragging about sexually assaulting women.

As the shocking tape spread rapidly across the internet, the media largely assumed the race was over — that admitting to sexual assault would be disqualifying, that we could never elect a man who jokes about violence. It wasn’t, and we did. 

Trump chalked his comments up to “locker room talk,” and his supporters followed suit. They insisted this is just the type of banter we should expect of boys and men, this is just the normal stuff guys talk about when girls are not around. Many Republican officials did condemn the tape, but most did not abandon him. 

The message sent to the American public was clear: Abuse isn’t fantastic, but it’s not that big of a deal, either.

The expectation of basic respect for other human beings diminishes when harmful values are valorized from the top down.

Fast forward seven months, and a GOP House candidate is dealing with the aftermath of reportedly body-slamming a reporter. According to an audio recording and eyewitness reports, The Guardian’s Ben Jacobs attempted to ask Republican congressional candidate Greg Gianforte, who is running in Montana’s special election, a question about his stance on the GOP health care bill in light of the Congressional Budget Office score. 

Fox News’ Alicia Acuna, who was in the room, had this to say about what happened next: “Gianforte grabbed Jacobs by the neck with both hands and slammed him into the ground behind him. Faith, Keith and I watched in disbelief as Gianforte then began punching the reporter.” 

“I’m sick and tired of you guys!” Gianforte yelled at Jacobs.

The incident is horrifying, yet given the current political climate, the negative rhetoric about the press, and the attitudes of the man who now sits in the White House, it’s not totally surprising. Americans placed a vessel of toxic masculinity into the highest office in the nation, and now we’re watching the inevitable trickle down.

Montana’s Billings Gazette rescinded their endorsement of Gianforte Thursday morning, noting how his past behavior must be looked at differently now.

“We’d point out that all the other questionable interactions Gianforte had with reporters, including one case where he joked about ganging up on a reporter, must now be seen through a much more sinister lens. What he passed off as a joke at the time now becomes much more serious,” wrote the Gazette’s editorial board. 

Of course, Gianforte’s previous “joke” about wringing a reporter’s neck was no cause for alarm. Because this is what happens when the country rejects a zero tolerance policy when it comes to physical violence. This is what happens when we give abuse a pass. This is what happens when the President of the United States repeatedly calls journalists “enemies of the American people” and encourages his supporters to harass them. 

Americans placed a vessel of toxic masculinity into the highest office in the nation, and now we’re watching the inevitable trickle down.

No, Donald Trump did not singlehandedly cause Gianforte to become violent, and Gianforte may have lashed out in the same way if someone else were President of the United States. But Trump has undoubtedly encouraged an atmosphere in which groups he targets become victims of violence.

“In the past three weeks, political reporters have described being arrested, pinned against a wall, slapped, and now body-slammed,” HuffPost’s Michael Calderone notes. 

It remains to be seen whether Gianforte or his Democratic opponent, Rob Quist, will win the race. What we do know, is that the conversation surrounding the acceptability of physical violence has shifted since 2015.

A reporter was trying to hold a candidate accountable by asking questions ― an action that’s both routine to the function of journalism and necessary for democracy ― and somehow his assault has become a partisan issue, something to debate, something to “take a side” on. Supporters and pundits aren’t rejecting Gianforte’s behavior wholesale, and that’s because the culture our president and his leadership team enforce has given them permission not to.

BuzzFeed’s Charlie Warzel noted the praise he’s seeing on Twitter from Trump supporters:

Fox News’ Laura Ingraham went so far as to compare Jacobs to a tattle-tale child, and asked what other Montana men would do if body-slammed, implying that “real men” fight back:

And as the Associated Press’ Mary Clare Jalonick reports, a GOP Congressman from California had this to say: 

The notion that being a man requires using brute force to get what you want, what you believe you deserve ― whether that be a woman’s pussy or the ability to dodge a tough policy question ― is all part of one toxic masculine package. These ideas existed before Trump and they will outlast him, but the expectation of basic respect for other human beings diminishes when harmful values are valorized from the top down. 

As the narrative surrounding the election goes: It’s not that Trump’s supporters voted for him because he was an abuser, they voted for him despite that. But the unfortunate truth is that intent doesn’t matter. The result is still the same, and a man who brags about sexual violence and calls the press an “enemy” is now running the country. A legitimization of dangerous ideas about what it means to be a man was always going to be part of the package deal. 

Greg Gianforte’s assault of a reporter is one more manifestation of Trump culture. This is the country we live in now. 

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A few hundred billion cut here, a few hundred billion slashed there, and the Trump budget proposal released this week adds up to real crushed opportunity.

The spending plan slices a pound of flesh from everyone, well, everyone who isn’t a millionaire or billionaire. For the rich, it promises massive tax breaks.

There are cuts to worker safety programs, veterans’ programs, Social Security, Medicaid, Medicare, food stamps, vocational training, public education, environmental protection, health research and more. So much more. The list is shockingly long.

Each incision is painful. But what’s worse is the collective result: the annihilation of opportunity. The rich can buy opportunity. The rest cannot. What was always special about America was its guarantee of opportunity to everyone. All who worked hard and pulled themselves up by their bootstraps could earn their own picket-fenced home. This budget terminates the goal of opportunity for all. It declares that the people of the United States no longer will help provide boots to those who lost jobs because of NAFTA, the residents of economically depressed regions, the children of single mothers, the sufferers of chronic diseases, the victims of natural disasters. No bootstraps for them. Just for the rich who hire servants to pull the straps on their fancy $1,500 Gucci footwear.

The minimum-wage servant class doesn’t have a prayer under this budget. Trump condemns them to a perpetual prison of poverty. His budget denies them, and even their children, the chance to rise. It treats no better the precarious middle class and workers whose jobs are threatened by imports. It even screws veterans.

Achieving the American Dream depends on a good education, and the Trump budget would extinguish that possibility…

Achieving the American Dream depends on a good education, and the Trump budget would extinguish that possibility for tens of millions. The breadth and depth of the cuts to public education are gobsmacking. They’ll enable billionaire Education Secretary Betsy DeVos to use the money instead to subsidize private school tuition for the Gucci class.

While DeVos helps the already-rich attend pricey private schools, she and Trump would cut $345.9 billion from public education, training, employment and social services. That includes $71.5 billion from public elementary, secondary and vocational education. They’d take $11.4 billion from education for disadvantaged children and $13.9 billion from special-needs children.

They’d withdraw $183.3 billion from higher education including $33 billion from financial assistance. They say to kids who failed to be born to wealthy parents, “too bad for you, no low-interest student loans for brilliant poor students and far fewer grants for the talented who could cure cancer if only they could afford college tuition.”

Many of these aspiring students can’t turn to their parents for help because they’ve lost jobs as manufacturers like Rexnord and Carrier closed American factories and shipped jobs to Mexico or China. Trump and DeVos would also decimate help for the parents to get back on their feet, eliminating $25.2 billion for training and employment.

If the parents’ unemployment insurance runs out as they search for new jobs and their cars are repossessed, mass transit may not be an option for commuting to new positions. Trump would cut it by $41.6 billion.

If a furloughed worker in North Dakota or Minnesota or Pennsylvania can’t afford to pay the heating bill, Trump’s government would no longer help. He would eliminate entirely the Low Income Home Energy Assistance Program, ending aid that can mean the difference between life and freezing to death for 6 million vulnerable Americans.

If laid-off workers ultimately also lose their homes to foreclosure, Trump is unsympathetic. He’d cut $77.2 billion from housing assistance. His advice: take your bootless feet and live in the street.

And don’t expect any government cheese once there. Trump would carve $193.6 billion out of food stamps. He doesn’t even spare infants, with an $11.1 billion smack to the program that feeds pregnant women and their babies. School kids can’t expect food either. Trump and DeVos say too bad for them if they can’t hear their teachers over their growling stomachs. Trump takes nearly 21 percent away from the Agriculture Department, which subsidizes school lunches for low-income kids.

[T]he Trump budget… [rips] $154.1 billion from veterans’ services, including $94.4 billion from hospital and medical care…

Trump also stiffs families that lose their health insurance because they can’t afford COBRA premiums after a job loss or can’t find new employment before their COBRA eligibility expires. Trump slashes $627 billion from Medicaid, and that’s on top of draconian cuts in his so-called health plan that would cost 14 million Americans their insurance coverage next year and 23 million over 10 years. Trump says no health care for the down and out.

For the residents of West Virginia glens with closed coal mines, and the citizens of shuttered mill towns in Western Pennsylvania and the in habitants of Michigan municipalities struck down by offshored auto manufacturing jobs, Trump would purge $41.3 billion from the community development program that provides both jobs and otherwise unaffordable crucial municipal improvements.

The unemployed or under-employed who hoped for jobs in Trump’s promised $1 trillion infrastructure program receive no reprieve in this proposed spending plan. It removes $97.2 billion from airports, $123.4 billion from ground transportation and $16.3 billion from water transportation projects.

Trump is mulling sending thousands of new troops to Afghanistan, and for some young people with few options, that service is attractive because it comes with good medical and education benefits. But the Trump budget diminishes that chance at success as well, ripping $154.1 billion from veterans’ services including $94.4 billion from hospital and medical care and $511 million from veterans’ education and training.

For young people who thought the AmeriCorps program might be an employment substitute for the military, no luck. Trump’s spending plan abolishes that service program.

Trump’s $4.1 trillion budget redefines America. No longer the land of opportunity, it would be a place of welfare for the rich in the form of million-dollar tax breaks and subsidies for exclusive private schools. For the rest, hope would be extinguished. For them, Trump’s budget would convert America the beautiful into America the hellish hole.

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Oprah may be the epitome of black girl magic but even she can’t get enough of the amazing accomplishments from young black girls around the country. So she’s joining in on the celebration. 

This graduation season, the queen of media herself is going to commencement ceremonies for all of the young women who attended the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy in South Africa and are graduating from American colleges or universities this year.

Oprah ― who opened the academy in 2007 to provide young women in the country with an opportunity to learn, grow and graduate high school ― said she wants to support each of the nine academy alumni who will receive college degrees in the U.S. this year, marking a special moment not just for the girls but one for Oprah, too. 

“Seeing these students walk across the stage at graduation and accept their diploma – I am filled with a pride I didn’t know existed,” Oprah told HuffPost. “I would have to say it’s one the biggest rewards in my life – to see these girls become the women I always knew they would become.”

So far, Oprah has traveled across states to attend six graduation ceremonies, three of which she was chosen to be a guest commencement speaker, including: Agnes Scott College, Smith College, and Skidmore college. She also attended ceremonies at Johnson C. Smith University, Elon University, and Colorado College. 

This is the second year that 100 percent of the OWLAG graduates who have completed their studies and earned degrees in America have earned degrees. There are currently 16 young women who are attending colleges or universities in the states. To date, there is a total of 393 OWLAG graduates who have gone to colleges and universities around the world and 310 students who are currently in attendance. 

Over the years, Oprah says she has done her best to establish strong relationships with each of the girls. They call her “Mom Oprah” and she calls them her “daughter girls.” They also text and FaceTime her frequently and try to visit her during holidays, building a special bond with an inspirational woman who not only looks like them but who also provides them with opportunities to help them each live their best lives. 

“I opened my school for girls in South Africa because it has been shown throughout the world that when you impact a girl’s life through education, that opportunity is given back to her, her family and her community,” Oprah said.

“I have always tried to be there for my girls over the years, spending time with them, talking about their hopes, fears and aspirations, and sharing life lessons I’ve learned along the way,” she added. “I want them to know they have my support in all of the big and smallest of ways.” 

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The president is resisting calls to resign and has said he will fight the accusations.

The tilapia treatment can speed up healing by several days and reduces the need for pain medication.

Federal immigration officers who took part in a “raid” at a Michigan restaurant Wednesday first sat and ate breakfast, according to the eatery’s owner.

Six U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents came to the Ann Arbor restaurant Sava’s on Wednesday morning, owner Sava Lelcaj said. Two officers were stationed at the front door, two stood at the back exit and two entered the restaurant and had breakfast at the bar with a view of the kitchen, other staff members told Lelcaj, who wasn’t present at the time.

The officers who came inside did not initially identify themselves as ICE agents. They dined on waffles with bacon and egg whites with toast before inquiring about a kitchen worker who was not there, Lelcaj told HuffPost.

About the same time, line cook Carlos Rivera-Ochoa took out the trash in the back when officers slapped handcuffs on him, according to Lelcaj. Rivera-Ochoa told MLive he carries his permanent residency card with him, and he was released shortly after being taken into a vehicle and fingerprinted.

But when three other cooks in the kitchen saw officers confront Rivera-Ochoa, they “panicked,” Lelcaj said, and ran out the front door and were then arrested.

We’re a really loving, peaceful town. It’s not the kind of place where you’d expect this kind of rampage to occur in a restaurant.
Sava Lelcaj, owner of Sava’s restaurant

Rachael Yong Yow, ICE public affairs officer, said the agents were “conducting a targeted enforcement action” and arrested the three men on immigration violations. Two men who were detained had unlawfully entered the country, Yong Yow said, and the third had entered lawfully “but did not depart in accordance with the terms of his status.”

She said all three were in ICE custody Wednesday evening, but Lelcaj said later that one of the employees had been released.

Lelcaj added that she conducts screenings when hiring employees and had believed that the men who were arrested were authorized to work in the U.S.

“Why would somebody innocent run? Because they felt intimidated,” Lelcaj said, describing the detainees as “victims of this raid.” “It’s a scary time. Even people with documentation … they’re scared to shit.”

President Donald Trump’s administration has cracked down on illegal immigration, fulfilling one of his campaign promises. In the first 100 days of his presidency, deportation officers arrested 41,000 people, a 38 percent increase compared with the same period last year. ICE is also arresting more non-criminals, up to 10,800 from 4,200 in the same period.

The White House has also come after sanctuary cities, jurisdictions that have immigrant-friendly policies, such as limiting cooperation between local law enforcement and ICE. Ann Arbor does not call itself a sanctuary city but has similar policies in place.

Ann Arbor police didn’t take part in the enforcement action or any earlier investigation, according to MLive.

“We’re a really loving, peaceful town,” Lelcaj said. “It’s not the kind of place where you’d expect this kind of rampage to occur in a restaurant.”

The restaurant owner said she’s now struggling to figure out how to make sure her employees, who come from many different countries, feel safe at work. With the kitchen down three cooks after the arrests, Rivera-Ochoa volunteered to return to work after his brief detainment, but he was “quivering,” Lelcaj said.

Lelcaj fled Albania in the 1980s with her family, living in a Serbian refugee camp for a year before spending her teens in the Bronx in New York.

“America accepted us and allowed us to come here and have a better life,” she said. “If I can do anything to make anyone’s American dream happen … I will do it.”

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People on Twitter took Housing and Urban Development Secretary Ben Carson to task after he said that poverty was a “state of mind.”

The neurosurgeon, who previously caught heat for suggesting that slaves who were brought to America were “immigrants,” made the controversial comment during a SiriusXM Radio interview with Armstrong Williams released Wednesday.

Listen to the clip here:

”I think poverty to a large extent is also a state of mind,” said Carson. “You take somebody that has the right mindset, you can take everything from them and put them on the street, and I guarantee you in a little while they’ll be right back up there.”

Carson’s comments sparked anger among Twitter users, including “Star Trek” actor George Takei. Here’s a sampling:

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WASHINGTON ― Virginia Gov. Terry McAuliffe (D) pardoned an undocumented mother of two on Wednesday for a years-old conviction for driving without a license in the hope that it will help spare her from deportation.

But the fact that she is no longer defined as a criminal might not matter to the Trump administration. 

Immigration and Customs Enforcement detained Liliana Cruz Mendez, the 30-year-old originally from El Salvador, last Thursday when she went to the agency for a routine check-in. ICE had repeatedly allowed her to remain in the U.S. in spite of a 2006 removal order for crossing the border illegally and a 2013 misdemeanor conviction for driving without a license, which she could not obtain because of her status.

Her case now becomes another test for President Donald Trump, who claims his focus is on criminals but has detained scores of non-criminals as well. Cruz Mendez can’t be defined as a criminal anymore ― the question is whether ICE cares.

The agency indicated after McAuliffe’s pardon announcement that nothing has changed.

“ICE took Ms. Cruz Mendez into custody based on a final order of removal issued by an immigration judge in April 2006,” agency spokeswoman Carissa Cutrell said in an email. “Even without any criminal convictions, she is still subject to removal from the United States based on that final order of removal.”

Cruz Mendez’s supporters, from advocates to politicians, have not claimed she is not subject to removal. Instead, they argue she has contributed greatly to her community and should be allowed to remain in the U.S. with her husband and children.

“Taking Liliana away from her kids & husband won’t make VA safer,” McAuliffe tweeted after announcing his pardon. “Feds need to focus on public safety threats & real immigration reform.”

Rep. Don Beyer (D-Va.), who has advocated for Cruz Mendez’s relief, said afterward that he was “very pleased but still cautious” because the pardon doesn’t change the deportation order, even if it takes away her conviction.

“The Trump administration and ICE seem determined to deport anyone who comes across their path who is in the country without papers,” Beyer told HuffPost. “So the simple fact that she’s undocumented in the Trump mind makes her a criminal.”  

Cruz Mendez is seeking a stay of removal, which would allow her to remain in the country. Nick Katz of the advocacy group CASA, which is working on her case, said they are hopeful the pardon will help her receive that stay.

“It really weakens the foundation of ICE’s argument for why they were saying that she needs to be removed from the United States, and we hope this will weigh strongly in their consideration,” Katz said.

He said they plan to push governors to issue pardons in similar situations for immigration-related crimes in an effort to keep people out of deportation proceedings.

For now, Cruz remains in detention. Beyer said he hopes Trump can consider what deporting her would do to her children, noting that the president said he was moved by images of violence against children in Syria.

“Maybe he could be moved by the idea of a mother being separated from her children by thousands of miles for no credible reason,” he said. “Nobody’s life is going to be helped by this, although many will be hurt.”

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There’s plenty of advice out there focused on affair recovery and what married couples can do to rebuild trust after infidelity. There’s considerably less information available on how to move forward from an affair if you’re the other man or woman. How do you convince yourself it’s over ― and what do you tell the married person you’ve been seeing?

Below, therapists from around the country share the advice they give affair partners looking to disengage from an unhealthy relationship and move on with their lives for good.

1. Pay attention to your affair partner’s actions, not their words. 

When your partner tells you they intend to leave their marriage, you want to believe them; it’s easy to fall for false promises or half truths when you’re deeply invested in a relationship, said Alicia H. Clark, a psychologist in Washington, D.C. It’s a lot harder to recognize that your partner likely hasn’t made any real attempts to break free from their primary relationship, she said.

“An affair derives romance and passion from ‘what-could-be’ but that’s generally not sustainable,” Clark told HuffPost. “Avoiding reality only hurts you and the future you deserve with someone who can fully love you. Facing reality and your understandable disappointment is the first step in making yourself available for true love.”

2. Recognize that there’s a whole different side of your S.O. you’re not exposed to.

Affairs are intoxicating because they’re built on brief, heady encounters, and they’re entirely free from the day-to-day demands primary relationships face, said Kurt Smith, a therapist who specializes in counseling for men. That’s why it’s important to ask yourself: What’s my affair partner like when they go home to their spouse and kids ― and how have I idealized them in this on-the-side relationship?

“Affairs are built on fantasy, not real life,” he said. “No kids, no household to run. When you’re with someone who’s still married you’re also only getting part of them because they’re not fully available, which means you’re usually only seeing their better side.”

3. Remind yourself that you’re worthy of someone’s full attention. 

Your may savor the time you do spend together ― but ultimately, you’re selling yourself short if you don’t have their full attention, Clark said. There’s even a possibility that carrying on the affair in secret has taken a toll on your self-esteem, leading you to believe you’re not worthy of love or a trusting relationship. 

“Remember, just because you’ve become accustomed to waiting your turn, thinking about your partner’s needs first or keeping shameful secrets doesn’t mean this is who you are,” she said. “You deserve to be in a mutual relationship, where you can get your needs met without shame.

4. Break it off in person, not through text.

Ghosting is no way to end any relationship, let alone one as fraught and complicated as an affair. To avoid messy emotional entanglements later on and gain some closure, end the relationship in person, said Megan Fleming, a New York City-based psychologist and sex therapist. 

“It might be tempting to send a ‘Dear John’ text or or cut off the connection cold turkey but you owe it to yourself to say goodbye to what drew you to this person and what will never be,” she said. “It needs to end properly so that the relationship you truly desire can come into your life.”

5. Don’t use vague terms when ending it. 

You may be tempted to couch your breakup language in vague statements to lessen the blow ― “maybe one day this will work out” or “I’ll always have feelings for you” ― but doing so isn’t helpful to either of you, said Sheri Meyers, a marriage and family therapist and the author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship.  

“You can be compassionate and considerate, but do not backpedal; give no mixed messages of hope,” she said. “Say goodbye and that you can’t see them anymore ― period, no exceptions. You’ve got to close the open emotional door between you and cut off all contact.”

6. Then, resist any attempts on their part to get back in touch.

Once you’ve ended it unequivocally, don’t allow your ex to re-enter your life, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of After A Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife.

“They may still call you and try to see you in person so they can convince you to stay,” she said. “Fight the urge to see them again. Think of all the times you tried to contact them in the past, but they were too busy with their actual partner. Then, remember that ultimately, you are breaking free from an unhealthy relationship.”

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David Oyelowo is serious about inspiring positive change in the world.

The actor will be honored on June 4 by the Diamond Empowerment Fund, a nonprofit co-founded by Russell Simmons, with the Diamonds Do Good International Vanguard Award. The award, which will be given to Oyelowo during the organization’s annual awards gala in Las Vegas, recognizes his achievements in the arts and in the educational empowerment of vulnerable girls in Nigeria.

Oyelowo told HuffPost that he prefers projects that showcase Africa’s overlooked history, such as “United Kingdom,” which highlighted Botswana’s role as a leading diamond-producing nation. In that film, Oyelowo plays Botswana’s first president, Sir Seretse Khama.

“My passion is really behind any African story that highlights the transcendent beauty and just the amazing quality of Africa and its people,” Oyelowo told HuffPost. “So whether it’s in ‘United Kingdom’ or whether it’s in ‘Queen of Katwe’ or other projects that I’m at the inception stages with, that’s what I’m fundamentally interested in and it just so happens that Botswana’s success story is tied into diamonds.”

The actor, who was born in England to Nigerian parents, adds that in addition to highlighting Africa’s abundant culture on the silver screen, he also wants to change the negative perception of Nigeria ― specifically as it pertains to the marginalization of women.

“One of the stories that isn’t a success story of course is surrounding the Chibok girls and what’s going on with Boko Haram, and what’s going on with the marginalization of women generally, not just in Nigeria, but on the African continent and around the world,” he said. “So for me, it’s about highlighting the great story, but also trying to change the narrative around the negative, because those are things that can and must change.”

Aside from his David Oyelowo Leadership Scholarship for Girls in Nigeria, the actor says he wants to extend his humanitarian efforts to combat the global epidemic of human trafficking.

“Going beyond the borders of Nigeria, human trafficking, modern-day slavery, sex trafficking, these are really disgusting things that are going on in society,” he said. “A lot of them are dealing with girls being pulled out of Africa. It’s happening within the continent itself. Even here in Los Angeles ― the San Fernando Valley, where I live ― it’s one of the worst hubs for human trafficking in the country.”

“So it’s on our doorstep, and it’s international. And if you’re a father of children, really it’s a thing that young people are being subjected to by those who prey upon them,” the actor continued. “It’s unthinkable to think about what’s going on out there. So anything and everything I can do, and my colleagues can do, to eradicate this is what I’m interested in.”

Sometimes with Hollywood specifically, we tend to rush after the buzzy, glamorous, attention-seeking initiatives and it’s not sustainable.”
David Oyelowo

As many as 17,500 people are trafficked into the country every year, according to estimates from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, with an estimated 21 million people trafficked around the globe.

And, according to the United Nations, sexual exploitation is the most common form of human trafficking in the world, and women and girls make up the largest proportion of victims.

Oyelowo is committed to reducing these startling statistics, regardless of public recognition.

“I think that’s one of the problems with our society in general. And sometimes with Hollywood specifically, we tend to rush after the buzzy, glamorous, attention-seeking initiatives and it’s not sustainable,” he argued. “Anything that is for instant gratification for yourself will not last. This is a problem in terms of what’s going on in Nigeria, and specifically the marginalization of women.”

“If you’re looking in Hollywood, it’s not as egregious and injustice as sex trafficking and human trafficking but, when you look at sexism within the film industry, we have these moments when everyone pays it attention and then people forget,” he said.

Rather than participating in an occasional initiative for instant gratification, Oyelowo encourages more of his peers in entertainment to commit themselves to humanitarian movements in order to see real change. 

“I’m a big believer in not focusing in on the big moment, but on the movement,” he said. “The movement is something that has to be perpetual. Once I attach myself to something I try to focus on it and not let go until the job is done, regardless if the cameras are on or not.”

“I think if more of us do that, the more will actually get done,” he added.

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